COMMON
EGO (NARCISSISTIC) TRAITS:
*The ego attaches and identifies with your personal story
* it resents
* it needs to control through dominance or manipulation
* it uses manipulative gaslighting techniques in order to confuse and disorient people so they become more susceptible to their demands and emotional abuse
* it uses social media as a means to seek social status and attention
* it wants approval from others (external validation through recognition and praise)
* it craves more power over people and/or external circumstances (elitism)
* it lives in constant comparison to others
* it feels the need to be right (mental standpoint)
* it thinks it is the separate doer of actions
* it believes itself to solely be the physical body/personality
* it is conditional
* it fishes for compliments/flattery
* it promotes separation/exclusivity
* it feels unworthiness (a sense of lack) and craves more things to over-compensate (for its needs are never satisfied)
* it is uncomfortable being alone unless distracted (escapism)
* it is easily threatened and insecure
* it is over-analytical (excessive thinker)
* it has a strong sense of entitlement
* it promotes separation/exclusivity
* it feels unworthiness (a sense of lack) and craves more things to over-compensate (for its needs are never satisfied)
* it is easily threatened and insecure
* it has a strong sense of entitlement
* it feels guilt
* it gossips/opinionated/trolls
* it worries
* it is shallow (has a need to impress others)
* it overgeneralizes
* it obsesses over should, must and/or ought
* it holds grudges
* it has lacks empathy
* it has an appetite for drama (to feel significant/important)
* it focuses on past/future (at the expense of being in the present moment)
* it is emotionally reactive
* it catastrophizes (it takes a little problem and transforms it into a big, terrible, life-changing event)
* it depends on the opinions of others
* it does not trust
* it is defensive (taking things personally)
* it is co-dependent on people
* it represses emotions
* it cannot love unconditionally
* it is possessive
* it hoards/has OCD
* it accumulates
* it has unrealistic expectations of others (expecting others to meet its standards or wishes)
* it creates inner resistance to what is actually happening in life (rigid thinking)
* it seeks meaning and happiness from external things
* it is envious
* it needs to prove its self-worth through work and hobbies
* it is not comfortable with change or new viewpoints
* it lives in the dark (confusion)
* it labels and judges people and things
* it plays victim role or perpetrator
* it uses scapegoating as a defence mechanism of denial by projecting responsibility and blame onto others
* it complains
* it has low self-esteem (also known as an “inverted ego”)
* it is unconscious of itself
This is huge. I mean, I thought I was free but this just told me that I still have a lot of work to do. Well, I’ve recognized my faults now and I’m surely going to look for how to work around it. Thanks for the heads up.
Wow!!! Ego really needs to go down. It truly has more harm than good. I like the ego awareness day I saw on the other page and so I wish the world would honor that. People really need to be corrected and the campaign would help seriously.
Hmmmm. Comparison with others is like the one glaring at me right now and I think I’m really guilty of that. But is that really a bad thing? I mean, I do that with good intentions and try to work on myself for improvements.
This is so much like my mum! She’s got this attitude that is not going down well with us and it’s frustrating. The thing is most times when it happens, she comes back later to apologize. I still don’t really get this ego thing and how it works though.
Gosh! Shocking revelation! But I exhibit a lot of these traits. Does that make me egoistic?! But it’s not like I do them on purpose or something. Any help??
Great and helpful post. Thanks for sharing this.